It's Not Supposed to Hurt...Is It?

So I have this article on the web; it’s very serious. It’s about the importance for Transsexual women to dilate. I get a lot of questions on this article—mostly from pre-ops. The questioners almost always ask why I have to convince TS women to dilate regularly.

‘Doesn’t it feel good?’ No, it doesn’t. No, really, it doesn’t.

It’s an understandable question. Isn’t the whole point of having a vagina to use it to its best advantage? Isn’t it supposed to feel good when it’s all filled up? One would think so, and maybe for some transsexual women it does. But for many of us, dilation is a painful experience. It’s on a par with root canals and post-holiday exercise regimens. And of course, if it hurts that much, you put it off too long, and then it hurts even more, and then you wait longer, and then...well you get the picture.

I try to stress the importance of regularity because that reduces the pain and keeps the vaginal opening flexible. For those at least a year post-op, once a week for a half-hour to forty-five minutes should suffice. That doesn’t sound that bad, does it? And remember, it’s supposed to feel good! At least it sure seems that way when you look at gg’s (genuine girls) doing it—except they don’t call that dilation. But that’s a different subject.

So I’m out there in the world preaching to TS women to get some backbone, lay down and spread’em for a little vaginal exercise each week. It’s almost a crusade. So do I follow my own advice? Well, I try. But the last time I dilated was over a month ago, and I can almost feel the walls closing in down there. I tell myself every morning that I should dilate, but then something better comes along and I put it off. Besides—it hurts too much!